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Life isn’t always blogworthy

Life isn’t always blogworthy. 
Like on Friday, when Adam called me to say that his tire had blown out on the Interstate and he was sitting at the shop getting a new tire put on. There goes our house project spending money in August.

Or like when Adam called back to say that apparently the starter had gone out in his car and would have to be replaced immediately or we wouldn’t be able to drive to Texas that afternoon for our niece’s birthday party. There goes our chance to put back any money in savings in August.

Or like when you go to pick up the car only to find out that it now has a transmission problem and has to be taken to a shop across town for even more work. There goes our mini vacation to Portland in October.

And like when you find three stray dogs in less than 24 hours and despite your phone calls, online posts, and pleas for help you don’t have anything you can do besides take them to the local shelter with no guarantee that they won’t ever be put down. And you feel like complete and total shit about it… total shit!
Or like when your entire family comes together for a weekend and it isn’t picture perfect. In fact, it’s far from it. It’s hectic and it’s stressful and you want to pull your freaking hair out. And when you finally get back in your car to leave all you really want to do it curl up and cry because integrating families is tough and personalities clash and life just isn’t fair. 
Yeah — none of that is blogworthy. It’s just life and sometimes, life just sucks. No one wants to see a picture of Adam and I sitting in silence for a 5 hour car ride because both of us are so angry with each other. And no one wants to see a tutorial on how to transfer money from your savings account to pay off the incredible amount of car repair debt you suddenly accumulated. And no one wants to pin creative graphics about how you can’t afford that trip that you’ve been looking forward to or about how you haven’t had AC in your car all summer so you arrive to work every morning looking like a dog hanging her head out the window.
Life isn’t always blogworthy. But this blog is supposed to be an honest reflection of our lives so I’m making the choice to share all of this anyhow. 
I don’t want sympathy because I know it could always be worse. 
I don’t want pity because I know that in reality, we actually have it really good and that I’m being a baby.

I guess I do want empathy — because I think we can all relate to having a one too many days in a row when life keeps knocking you down as you continue to find enough ground to stand on. I want to get my balance and start to fight back. I want to laugh it all off and tell Life where she can shove it. But first — Life has to quit kneeing me in the ribs each time I think I can get up. I feel like we’ve all been there — so maybe today, all I really want is to hear that you were once there too and that you eventually found the ability to stand. 

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  • Reply The Grits Blog

    Man I feel ya. Totally feel ya. I don't have much more to add than that – it's nice to know I am not the only one that actually encounters life once in a while and that everything isn't rainbows and sprinkles.

    August 6, 2014 at 12:45 pm
  • Reply Anonymous

    You nailed it Kate. It's not about crying "poor me, life is so hard," especially when you're{we're} smart enough to know how good we really have it, and how silly complaining about such "first world problems" would be. But sometimes you just want to be able to say, hey, life kinda sucks right now, and I'm annoyed because I wish things were going differently. So I feel you on that — and you do have my empathy. Sorry the going's been tough lately. The clouds will part soon though, I'm sure of it! 🙂

    August 6, 2014 at 2:39 pm
  • Reply Krystal R.

    yup so much of this! I am sorry about the rough go at it you have had this week but I love your attitude to it! Hope things look up really soon!

    August 6, 2014 at 2:57 pm
  • Reply Linda Cassidy

    and all that is totally blogworthy to send out to a community that loves to give back. We all empathize, sympathize and will shed a tear with ya if you need it. Thanks for sharing

    August 6, 2014 at 3:20 pm
  • Reply Elise

    Totally in the same boat. I found this print on Etsy and I'm using it as my mantra for this week:

    August 6, 2014 at 3:35 pm
  • Reply Bri Towne

    giiiiiiiirl. this is exactly what i needed. not a day has gone by in the past two weeks that i haven't cried. totally not blogworthy. i feel you. you got this!

    August 6, 2014 at 3:36 pm
  • Reply Melissa Camacho

    Been there, done that… WAY too many times for my taste. it's always something. It's hard, and it sucks and yes… the screaming and being mad, totally there. I hope things start looking up for y'all. we've all been there. and like my mom always tells me "this too shall pass", <3

    August 6, 2014 at 3:53 pm
  • Reply brooke lyn

    you should probably find a second job or sell yourself on the street so you can still come visit portland. i promise to provide you with fun things to do here 😉

    August 6, 2014 at 4:15 pm
  • Reply Trish @ The Trish List

    Ahh yes the never ending car repairs. Sounds like my week. It really is always something but we chug along life and hope all the good times out number the bad. 🙂

    August 6, 2014 at 4:29 pm
  • Reply Amber Thomas

    And this is why I love and adore you two, because you're real. When it's all perfect and pretty and there's nothing amiss it feels like there's not life happening but just a dream. You know how I feel about the frustrations that come with life going it's own way that is SO FAR from your wishes and hopes… I wish I was closer for a glass of wine and some fun card games on the porch.

    Slash, my heart breaks for the pups too. Why does it have to pour when it rains?!?!

    August 6, 2014 at 4:40 pm
  • Reply Sarah

    great post and so honest. So true, sometimes there are weeks at a time like that, hopefully it will just get better from here! I hate when car problems all happen at once…ugh! Why can't there just be reliable transportation where I live?!

    August 6, 2014 at 4:41 pm
  • Reply Notes from a Newlywed

    I hear you, girlfriend! Those moments are what makes us human though, and I think as bloggers sometimes we get extra upset when things aren't lovely and perfect because many moments in our lives DO end up on our blogs, so of course we prefer happy fun things instead. At the same time, sharing those real, hard, sucky moments is important too because it reminds us that no one is perfect and we ALL share the same struggles from time to time. That's what makes me come back to certain blogs, is what they share the good and the bad. OK, maybe not a perfect 50/50, but I do like hearing real moments from time to time. So thank you:)

    August 6, 2014 at 5:10 pm
  • Reply Faith Golden

    And you nailed again! I've been there … sometimes I feel like I live there, on the floor, curled in a ball waiting for the next kick in the ribs. However, I have to say in those times .. when I don't think it's gonna get better or that I won't ever get back on my feet. I'm thankful for the people around me that will help lift me back up and give me the encouragement I need to not give up and to try again tomorrow. 🙂 It will get better .. thanks for sharing and letting ME know I'm not alone.

    Btw … LOVE the new design!!! 🙂

    August 6, 2014 at 6:56 pm
  • Reply Autumn @ The Unreal Life

    I had the same car type issues, and ended up having to pay $2,000 in one week just to get the myriad of issues fixed. Two weeks later, I had to pay full-price, $1500 out of pocket to get my wisdom teeth pulled because waitresses don't have insurance.

    So…your day could be worse? =) But I agree. Life sometimes…just sucks. But it always moves forward, so you can't stay stuck in the sucky for too long.

    August 6, 2014 at 7:18 pm
  • Reply Becca Davis

    Oh gosh can I relate! Sometimes it hits all at once and O just can't handle it anymore. And then on top of that I feel like I have to portray myself as someone who has it all together. Totally not true! Life doesn't need to be "blog worthy" or "pinterest worthy". Thanks for the reminder! Such a refreshing post to read.

    August 6, 2014 at 9:37 pm
  • Reply Destiny

    Oh I can relate 100% Sometimes life just keeps kicking you down. I've been there, and I can promise it gets better. Eventually you find the strength and a couple extra seconds to tell life off before she kicks you again. And it sucks, I know. I feel you.

    August 6, 2014 at 11:26 pm
  • Reply Rachel

    Actually–I'm completely convinced that any and all car trouble is blogworthy. I've blogged about the blown transmission while we were in a different state…flying rock that hit our car while on the highway…time we got in a car accident….when our tire blew on the highway….when a belt broke spontaneously while we were driving….
    Everyone has car trouble, we can all relate. And someday, it'll just be a story, and it won't hurt so bad. And it's CRAZY expensive! How old are your cars? Our cars were 18 and 12 years old when we sold them this month, so all of their expensive problems were kind of par for the course, but I thought ya'll drove fairly new cars?
    Actually–our car experience means that Angel and I are super super happy that we don't have expect to own a car again for several years–they're convenient when they work but scary, anger-inducing, and expensive when they don't.

    August 6, 2014 at 11:33 pm
  • Reply Kate @ Another Clean Slate

    Here's some sympathy and a promise that you aren't alone. Car troubles, money woes, disappointing family events… you aren't alone!

    August 6, 2014 at 11:52 pm
  • Reply Him & Me (But Mostly Me)

    I personally love reading about things like that. Empathy heading your way life can just suck and be hard sometimes!

    August 7, 2014 at 4:03 am
  • Reply Christina M

    I definitely can empathize and I hate when 'it rains, it pours' when crappy life stuff hits like a freight train all of a sudden! Here's hoping things get better for y'all as well as for me soon!

    PS … my BFF in LR has had car issues lately, maybe its something 'in the water'!

    August 7, 2014 at 1:42 pm
  • Reply Lynsey @ Eternally Wanderlyn

    Oh, I definitely know what that feels like! My car seems to always throw a temper tantrum at the worst possible moment. I hope things look up!

    August 7, 2014 at 1:53 pm
  • Reply Anonymous

    I feel ya – car repairs are especially horrible. Sorry it put a damper on your plans but hopefully you get to make fun new plans soon!

    August 7, 2014 at 2:17 pm
  • Reply Anonymous

    Those damn curveballs life throws at us can be tough. Here's hoping your rainbows come soon…cause they always do after the rain.

    August 7, 2014 at 8:23 pm
  • Reply Rachel

    I definitely feel you. I've recently had a big curveball thrown at me, and the really sad thing was that I realized that I could definitely get by on a tighter budget, but then I disappointed myself when I wondered, "without shopping/traveling/dining out, what will I blog about?" I started feeling really inadequate, and that's just stupid. It was a sobering moment that made me step back and consider my priorities more.
    I think posts like these are important, because so often blogs are just about how great life is and seem to be all about inducing envy, ya know? So thank you for being so honest and open.

    August 8, 2014 at 5:23 am
  • Reply whispering loudly

    I feel the 'raw' stories of those writing blogs is what I'm drawn to. I appreciate the transparency and love the honesty, knowing I'm not along with these good days and bad days and all the other days in between. Thank you.

    August 8, 2014 at 2:58 pm
  • Reply Faith Love

    Sorry about all the things that went on. Life definitely doesn't go like we plan. God has other plans. But we learn to deal with it.

    August 8, 2014 at 6:01 pm
  • Reply Kari | The Kari Diaries

    You've taken the words right from my heart. There have been days (who am I kidding? Weeks) when I've just felt like none of this is blogworthy & even more so it's depressing. Or like I can't even express in words what's going on in my head. I think we forget that we're allowed to be boring and mundane sometimes.

    August 8, 2014 at 7:37 pm
  • Reply The Jessa Olson Blog

    Oh girl!! I know exactly hoe you feel with family. It's tough.

    August 8, 2014 at 11:29 pm
  • Reply Sarah @ Seriously, Sarah?

    This is a perfect summary of real life vs. blog life. People write a lot about how social media is just the self promoting and polished side of life. I love this the best!

    August 9, 2014 at 8:11 pm
  • Reply Cassie Lee @ Sage the Blog

    Yikes lady. I hope things are getting better. I do appreciate you being REAL on here about it- so refreshing.

    August 9, 2014 at 8:32 pm
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